She had practical advice gained from personal experience and the stories of others. This book is filled with insights, practical and wise reflections on life, loss and people. It is written in a wonderful accessible style and even with humor. (yes humor... because that is a part of life and the pain of loss). The book has highlighted in blue important points Rebecca wants all to remember on our grief journey. One highlighted portion that has really stayed with me is that even though your person has died, you continue to be in a relationship with them and through loss the relationship changes but is never taken away. I bought this book to read with my son who had lost his wife last year. We had read several others. (Kubler Ross on death and dying Life was never the same, Year of magical thinking. ). But this book is different. It is a handbook, a guidebook. It offers help in bite size pieces which seemed the perfect size for people in pain. Corporations are still muddling their way through this era, because grief is such a delicate emotional issue. So if you are going through it on a personal level, you can help them understand what employees need and what they do not, suggests Soffer. At the time, she had just earned her graduate degree and was working as a producer for "The Colbert Report" television show. "I was building and losing at the same time and it felt like this very tenuous space to live in," she recalled.

Don’t think of grief as a wall to scale but rather as a wall to walk alongside - one you can decorate, too.”

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Can you imagine?” For a while, we had a pretty good excuse not to: We set off on this terrible adventure under an Administration that tried to convince us that we should not be afraid of this new virus, nor should we let it “dominate” our lives . The government tried to disconnect us from reality when reality was disconnecting us from the humans with whom we used to spend our days: co-workers, relatives, neighbors, the shop owner on the corner. For so long, we were physically separated from one another, trying to deal with our own “new normals,” which likely involved the addition of too many roles and the subtraction of others . Aside from glimpses on screens, we didn’t see the insides of other people’s homes. And so we didn’t see the people who inhabit those homes going through the motions of daily life after a loved one’s death. Another idea: Discuss with your boss a two- or three-month period that will not count towards your annual performance review. Rest assured we will return to our regular programming of thoughtful essays and in-depth interviews with notable humans. But first, thank you for allowing me to pause and appreciate a moment like this one alongside this community. They don’t come along all too often.

Especially when you are feeling no one is saying anything really helpful even though they are trying. Earlier this week, The Modern Loss Handbook: An Interactive Guide to Moving Through Grief and Building Your Resilience , officially published and is available wherever books are sold .And I can recommend it personally as someone who is grateful to have this book as help for our own loss. Care for one’s emotional well-being as they would their physical health, be it through talk/group/music therapy, writing exercises or cathartic destruction (it’s a thing!) Let’s face it: most of us can’t handle talking about death. We’re awkward and uncertain; we blurt out platitudes or say nothing at all; we send sympathy bouquets whittled out of fruit. Enter Rebecca Soffer and Gabrielle Birkner, who can help us do better. Modern Loss is a global movement and platform of content, resources and community focused on eradicating the stigma around grief while also encouraging people to find meaning and live richly. THE MODERN LOSS HANDBOOK does just that by offering a welcoming space in which to grow thoughts and feelings as they evolve and create a personal roadmap toward resilience.